HOW TO DEAL WITH HURT
We all have had incidents when we have been hurt. Sometimes the pain lingered and sometimes not.
Sometimes it stayed for days and maybe sometimes for years.
Pain has a way of working in waves. They play with the different tides of our lives and wash into our shore sometimes unexpectantly. So how do we deal with recurrent pain?
Now when I say recurrent pain, I don't really mean the pain each time after you work out. Though I will consider that legitimate too :P
I mean the pain that comes to the surface each time that we find ourselves in a similar situation as that which caused us hurt for the first time.
Take the case of being deprived of a toy repeatedly by a parent in your childhood and it being given to your other sibling.
Fastforward 10 years, you are way prettier, smarter, awesomer and older than before.
Fastforward to a promotion that you want and you somehow don't seem to get it and bam! The colleague who joined after you gets it! And swoosh! In comes that same feeling of deprivation.
Connect the dots. Join them and you will find miraculous chances of recovery and balance.
Join them all.
As a kid you were compared to your brother or sister in your looks. Now tell me, how healthy an outlook will that kid have towards their looks?
Fastforward again 10 years, you will sure as hell be the person who has a hard time accepting compliments even though you might actually be as dashing as johnny depp or catherine zeta jones.
So here is what I tried to do to embrace my inner diva of awesomeness. I dealt with the pain in a way that was a PHYSICAL action to release the pain.
I WROTE about that painful in incident in vivid detail and ALLOWED myself to feel all the emotions that incident caused me. Surprisingly, as I wrote, I could see things from a birds eye view. Much more clearly and I could even understand where the other person came from!
After the writing, I tore all the pages from the diary and decided to light it all up. There is something magical and powerful about fire. Call it catharsis, hypnosis, power or sheer heat which makes you look deeply into it. But it works. I would recommend that for this process you choose a place where you can burn the pages in peace. No, the drawing room or the bathroom is not a good idea. You want to take it to a place close to the soil where you can let the ashes go.
Another medium that helped me a lot in dealing with pain was dancing. Dancing was Cathartic, therapeutic, forcing me into a state of such celebration that pain naturally evaporated and ceased to exist! How can there be pain when every fibre of your being is singing in celebration? Celebration can ease mourning.
Hear again, CELEBRATION CAN EASE MOURNING. I don't mean sloshed and drunk enough to forget your name. I mean drunk on the high of doing something that completely nourishes you from within.
There is therapy in the hobbies that we love. Believe it or nor, they help us deal with pain. They help us mend.
What have been some of your ways to deal with hurt? I would like to know and I know some of the answers are going to be extremely entertaining! I look forward to that! Have a joyful week ahead!
Sometimes it stayed for days and maybe sometimes for years.
Pain has a way of working in waves. They play with the different tides of our lives and wash into our shore sometimes unexpectantly. So how do we deal with recurrent pain?
Now when I say recurrent pain, I don't really mean the pain each time after you work out. Though I will consider that legitimate too :P
I mean the pain that comes to the surface each time that we find ourselves in a similar situation as that which caused us hurt for the first time.
Take the case of being deprived of a toy repeatedly by a parent in your childhood and it being given to your other sibling.
Fastforward 10 years, you are way prettier, smarter, awesomer and older than before.
Fastforward to a promotion that you want and you somehow don't seem to get it and bam! The colleague who joined after you gets it! And swoosh! In comes that same feeling of deprivation.
Connect the dots. Join them and you will find miraculous chances of recovery and balance.
Join them all.
As a kid you were compared to your brother or sister in your looks. Now tell me, how healthy an outlook will that kid have towards their looks?
Fastforward again 10 years, you will sure as hell be the person who has a hard time accepting compliments even though you might actually be as dashing as johnny depp or catherine zeta jones.
So here is what I tried to do to embrace my inner diva of awesomeness. I dealt with the pain in a way that was a PHYSICAL action to release the pain.
I WROTE about that painful in incident in vivid detail and ALLOWED myself to feel all the emotions that incident caused me. Surprisingly, as I wrote, I could see things from a birds eye view. Much more clearly and I could even understand where the other person came from!
After the writing, I tore all the pages from the diary and decided to light it all up. There is something magical and powerful about fire. Call it catharsis, hypnosis, power or sheer heat which makes you look deeply into it. But it works. I would recommend that for this process you choose a place where you can burn the pages in peace. No, the drawing room or the bathroom is not a good idea. You want to take it to a place close to the soil where you can let the ashes go.
Another medium that helped me a lot in dealing with pain was dancing. Dancing was Cathartic, therapeutic, forcing me into a state of such celebration that pain naturally evaporated and ceased to exist! How can there be pain when every fibre of your being is singing in celebration? Celebration can ease mourning.
Hear again, CELEBRATION CAN EASE MOURNING. I don't mean sloshed and drunk enough to forget your name. I mean drunk on the high of doing something that completely nourishes you from within.
There is therapy in the hobbies that we love. Believe it or nor, they help us deal with pain. They help us mend.
What have been some of your ways to deal with hurt? I would like to know and I know some of the answers are going to be extremely entertaining! I look forward to that! Have a joyful week ahead!
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