Pick up where you left it

We pick up where we left off


So here's the thing-

A  lot us like would LIKE to believe that we are 15 or 25 or 50 or 35 or whatever our actual age is .

 

I, on the other hand , have another theory

We are not our actual age. Let me explain better or probably confuse you further :D


Let's take 4 aspects of our life-

 

Say....

1) Painting
2) Finance Management
3) Emotional Response
4) Cooking 


Yes, they seem completely unrelated but are they really?


Go back to the last time that you had painted in your life and remember how you FELT while doing that painting. THAT is your first memory. Now coming to the second memory, how did people you care for respond to that painting?

Did they love it no matter how it looked or called it a shitjob even as a joke?

Chances are, now at 30, when you pick up painting again, you will go back to the 10 year old you and feel exactly the way you felt like and remember exactly what someone's else's response to your painting was!  so then how old do you become really? 


Yes, 10 again. That is how powerful our memories are. That is how when we stop working on something, we always pick up from where we left off. The body and mind may have evolved but there was no fresh stimuli to overpower the last recollection of the memory that was so strong.

2) FINANCE MANAGEMENT

Now THAT'S a subject everyone will have plenty of experience in! But you know, chances are, you are still that 15 year old who was told that hey! You are great with money! or hey! who do you think you are to spend money like that! You think money grows on trees?!

It will take some reflection and conscious cleansing to break free of these kind of memories. Also because a lot of us have attached a sense of self worth attached to the amount of money we bring in.  

3) EMOTIONAL RESPONSE

Beautiful topic. Makes most of us thoroughly uncomfortable and want to leave the room or find a way to dig a hole into the ground or simply slam on the book shut when this one arises. 

Fact is, emotional response is probably the most copied activity in the human race. The way our parents interacted, we do it the same way!  For years and years in a stretch. Some of the habits last a lifetime.

If some habits were too unhealthy , some of us try to adopt a new outlook and ensure that we treat people differently. This one is the hardest to unlearn but the most rewarding one if done.  To not ignore, but to listen. To not judge , but to empathize, to not React but to respond, to not show intolerance in moments of unmasking (a moment of emotional vulnerability displayed by someone) but to just be neutral and let the person be heard. 


It can take years to unlearn emotional responses that we have subconsciously copied from the people we looked upto in our lives. Sometimes the emotional responses can remain the same till some other powerful experience shakes us out of that time capsule.


4) MY PERSONAL FAVORITE! COOKING!

Oh my gosh and holy gosh how!
I was never allowed into the kitchen I can speak from experience how a bad remark can probably put epic fail in front of a million attempts. Again, probably a new situation and a remarkable amount of will power needed to remove that one.

Sometimes I wish all these things were available in the supermarket you know.
Like 500 gms of will power, Instant Determination, Frozen Courage. 10 mins in the microwave and its ready to be eaten and felt!

This week I would like to hear some of your experiences about the activities where you feel you have frozen age. Maybe just a nudge here and there and a positive word in the right direction can bring us back on the track of growth again!

HAPPY WEEK AHEAD TO ALL OF YOU!